Hello,Bonjour,Aloha,Hola,Dumela,Gluten tag,Sekoh, and welcome to the Winner Circle for February 2010 (because we all are winners) I hope this message finds you in well being. This month's topic is Secrets Who am I? This age-old question is one of the most important you will ever ask or answer. Today, though, I want to ask you a question that is similar, but also very different. "What parts of yourself do you keep secret from others?" What do you do when you are alone that you would hate to have anyone find out about? Do you read trashy novels, talk to your plants, or consume ice cream by the quart? Do you indulge in self-destructive activities like illegal drugs or excessive alcohol use? Do you use language you'd be embarrassed to have overheard, or let the dishes pile up in the sink for days? If you do things you'd never want anyone to find out about, let me ask you another question: What do you do about that part of yourself that hates both the behavior and the deceit? Do you have to ignore part of yourself in order to keep your secret? What does it cost you to do that? Some secrets are just a harmless way to have privacy. Others are terribly destructive. They undermine relationships and cause us to lose self-respect. It is impossible to be a whole and happy person as long as we believe there are parts of ourselves that are so unacceptable we have to keep them hidden. So, let me ask you a few more questions. What does it cost you to keep your secrets? Do they stop you from being the person you'd most like to be? How might you benefit from being more open or eliminating certain behaviors altogether? Give it some thought.
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Do you look at the future with hope and a belief that no matter what comes your way, you will succeed? Or, do you look at the future as hopeless, and there's nothing that can be done to change it? What you believe has a lot to do with how well you weather the challenges in life.
Continuing on with our conversation thread of this week, today let's talk about how our beliefs affect what happens to us. A couple of things to keep in mind: 1) As human beings, we move toward and become like what we think about; and 2) Our present thoughts determine our future.
As human beings, we are teleological or goal-oriented. Also, we are picture-oriented. We think in pictures. If I say, "red apple" you don't see the words "red" and "apple." In your mind, you actually "see" a red apple.
You see, we don't see with our eyes. We pick up light with our eyes and then it is translated into images in our brains, depending upon how we've been conditioned to translate the light. Words create pictures, and we are drawn to pictures.
So, if you believe the future is hopeless, you will be drawn to every hopeless, depressing, "it's only going to get worse" story you can find.
We are comfortable when we find evidence to prove what we believe is true, and we act in accordance with those beliefs. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy. "I knew it was going to be bad, and it is."
The same thing holds true if we believe the future is full of
opportunity, and that we have the power to make it even better. We will see evidence of the possibilities, and be drawn to them because that's what we are thinking about. It is not surprising that people who look with positive intent are healthier, happier and more successful.
How do we make that switch in belief? It's all about changing that internal picture you hold, it isn't going to happen by accident. It will come by your intent